Steps to Breaking Your Procrastination Habit – thnxz to @PickTheBrain


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1. Write down the dreaded task. Writing down the task you’ve been putting off brings the project to the front of your mind so it can’t easily be ignored.

2. Identify the underlying feelings. According to psychologists, procrastination is an emotional reaction. One of three core emotions is always driving it–fear, anger, or sadness. For example, you might be worried that you won’t get the job done well enough and on time (fear). You may feel resentful because you have to do something you hate (anger). Or you might feel inadequate or ill-suited for the task (sadness). Dig down deep to identify which emotion is causing you to drag your heels.

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3. Move the emotion out of your body. Emotions are pure energy; they either flow through our body when we express them, or get stuck when we don’t. If they’re not expressed constructively and physically, they build up inside us like a pressure cooker. In a private setting, do exaggerated shivering to move out the fear; punch a pillow or stomp around to release anger; or watch a movie that makes you cry to express the sadness. It may sound silly, but it works.

4. Find an antidote to each negative thought. What negative thought pops into your head when you think of this task? You can neutralize such negative thinking by replacing each one with a “truth” that contradicts it. For example, if you think “I’ll never be able to learn all this,” you might say to yourself, “If others can learn this, so can I.”

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Jude Bijou, MA, MFT, is a respected psychotherapist, professional educator, and workshop leader. Her theory of Attitude Reconstruction® evolved over the course of more than 30 years working with clients as a licensed marriage and family therapist, and is the subject of her award-winning book, Attitude Reconstruction: A Blueprint for Building a Better Life. Learn more at www.attitudereconstruction.com.

 

The Need to Optimize Human Resource’s Resources | by Jesse de Agustin


by Jesse de Agustin | @emonalytics
Methodology Advisor
http://revealingengagement.com

Measuring subconscious emotional responses are not only useful when engaging a customer group but also when hiring employees. Traditional personality surveys, behavioral questioning, both in discussion and survey formats, and computerized software give limited applicant insight. Applicant tracking systems are powerful tools; yet especially with organization’s increasing emphasis on ensuring culture fit, the face to face interview is critical – because this is where emotion – both conscious and subconscious are center stage. Interviewers might be aware of  how to ‘read’ generalities of body language, but the advice is often incorrect.  For instance, just become someone looks down, doesn’t mean they’re hiding something.

The typical human resources practices are in need of optimization in terms of how they’re targeted at understanding actual human behavior.

Optimizing Human Resource’s Resources

Personality tests are often used in the hiring process, and are typically administered online. They attempt to delve into specific traits that apply to applicant’s behavior at work, and interpersonal behavior. [1] While these tests can be useful for jobs where teamwork is important, applicants can also easily “fake” responses based upon social norms, or what they believe the employer is “looking for.” Moreover, an eye tracking study shows that all ‘dimensions of personality were fakeable.’ Leer más “The Need to Optimize Human Resource’s Resources | by Jesse de Agustin”

7 Best Ways To Gain Confidence in 2011

Confidence is a characteristic that allows us to take risks in our lives. It is often through risk, we achieve great success in many aspects of our lives. It makes sense, therefore, to try to develop our own self-confidence as best we can in order to be successful and happy. Here are 7 best ways to do just that:

Create a Life Philosophy

The basis of your self-confidence will come from your having developed and followed a life philosophy. This life philosophy can grow out of a great thinker whom you admire, a convergence of ideas you’ve picked up in your education, or something unique to yourself that you’ve developed. The point is that you should have a philosophy that will guide your every action. If you have a solid philosophy on life, and it’s one that you’ve developed smartly, then you’ll always know how to act and think. That’s something you can be confident in.


Written by Barbara Jolie
http://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/7-best-ways-to-gain-confidence/

Confidence is a characteristic that allows us to take risks in our lives. It is often through risk, we achieve great success in many aspects of our lives. It makes sense, therefore, to try to develop our own self-confidence as best we can in order to be successful and happy. Here are 7 best ways to do just that:

Create a Life Philosophy

The basis of your self-confidence will come from your having developed and followed a life philosophy.  This life philosophy can grow out of a great thinker whom you admire, a convergence of ideas you’ve picked up in your education, or something unique to yourself that you’ve developed. The point is that you should have a philosophy that will guide your every action. If you have a solid philosophy on life, and it’s one that you’ve developed smartly, then you’ll always know how to act and think. That’s something you can be confident in. Leer más “7 Best Ways To Gain Confidence in 2011”

Mentally Hijacked: How to Recognize Constructive and Destructive Emotions

Emotions are a natural and basic part of life. They signal how we feel about a certain situation or occurrence, so we can take the necessary action to deal with the situation. Emotions in this sense aren’t positive or negative, but are more along the lines of constructive or destructive, depending on how they are utilized. Emotions can become destructive and cause serious distress when they become overwhelming and take over how we act, what we say, and what we do. This emotional high-jacking is where many problems emerge.

The high-road and low-road

Taking a closer look at the human brain and how it relates to emotions, we can examine two overall parts of the brain; the high-road and low-road. Both parts communicate with each other and help us navigate through the world. The low-road is the primitive part of the brain, where our emotions immediately come from, and signals when we feel sad, mad, or fearful. This can be helpful when it’s necessary to act quickly for our safety, or to remind us how we felt in a previous similar situation.

But, this low-road route is where emotional high-jacking occurs. It can lead to rash decision making, not thinking before acting, and ultimately hurting ourselves or others.

Your low-road sends the immediate signal of an emotion, and the high-road then assesses the situation to see what needs to be done to deal with the threat. The high-road is there so we can think about things before acting, and find the best options to solve our problem.


Emotions are a natural and basic part of life. They signal how we feel about a certain situation or occurrence, so we can take the necessary action to deal with the situation. Emotions in this sense aren’t positive or negative, but are more along the lines of constructive or destructive, depending on how they are utilized. Emotions can become destructive and cause serious distress when they become overwhelming and take over how we act, what we say, and what we do. This emotional high-jacking is where many problems emerge.

The high-road and low-road

Taking a closer look at the human brain and how it relates to emotions, we can examine two overall parts of the brain; the high-road and low-road. Both parts communicate with each other and help us navigate through the world. The low-road is the primitive part of the brain, where our emotions immediately come from, and signals when we feel sad, mad, or fearful. This can be helpful when it’s necessary to act quickly for our safety, or to remind us how we felt in a previous similar situation.

But, this low-road route is where emotional high-jacking occurs. It can lead to rash decision making, not thinking before acting, and ultimately hurting ourselves or others.

Your low-road sends the immediate signal of an emotion, and the high-road then assesses the situation to see what needs to be done to deal with the threat. The high-road is there so we can think about things before acting, and find the best options to solve our problem.

If you’ve ever been emotional distraught, you know it can be tough to think straight.

Using emotions advantageously comes from thinking before acting, and can help to prevent causing harm to yourself and others. Leer más “Mentally Hijacked: How to Recognize Constructive and Destructive Emotions”

User Experience: Using Empathy to Empower Your Users


By: Alexander Dawson

Whenever we talk about the subject of user experience, one word pulls itself to the front of every discussion. This word is empathy, the ability to understand the feelings and thoughts of your visitors and to be able to effectively place yourself in their shoes. Some people are more naturally empathic than others but the key principle remains the same. If you want to build a user-interface or create something that will gain widespread appeal, you need to know what your visitors need. Oh dear!

User Experience: Using Empathy to Empower Your Users

Humans Aren’t Psychic

Trying to gauge what your visitor’s individual needs are (as dynamic as they can be) is like swimming against the tide of the ocean. Not only is the human mind a complex organism, it’s downright next to impossible to read someone’s mind, even if you’ve known them for years. So unless you’re psychic or some sort of godly figure, how on earth are the rest of us meant to cope with such a challenge? The simple and unfortunate truth is that in our industry, most people don’t cope and fail at the task.

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Figure 1: Trying to read what’s going on inside visitors brains is impossible.

Emotional Psychology

If there’s one thing psychology can teach us, it’s that the types of emotions we suffer can seriously impact our ability to browse the web. Whether we are so tired that we can barely keep our faces off of the keyboard to the crazed acts of anger which make us hurl our monitors from a multi-story building’s window – the need to address such feelings and issues is paramount. By taking the time to better know and understand our visitors we can seek out such issues and resolve them (pain free).

Emotions
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Figure 2: We all have a range of emotions which can impact our experiences.

So how exactly are we meant to tackle something as complex as human emotions? I’m certainly not suggesting that you sit your visitors down on a couch and follow Freud’s notion of asking them about their mother – The general method we use to gather information on the web is through good ole fashioned research and feedback. My guess is that many of you already get some kind of feedback as it is, whether through your blogs comments or something like Google Analytics.

Illusions of Ubiquity… Leer más “User Experience: Using Empathy to Empower Your Users”

Understanding The Discomfort of Social Anxiety

Your current thought patterns are likely what keep you trapped in the prison of social anxiety. To unlock yourself from this prison, you will likely need to have to rewire your brain with new thoughts that take time to cement in the brain, but if you try this as a start, it will lead you up the correct path.


Can you overcome social anxiety?
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Srini Pillay, M.D.
Srini Pillay, M.D.

is the author of the book: Life Unlocked:
7 Revolutionary Lessons to Overcome Fear
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He is also an Assistant Clinical Professor at Harvard Medical School.

Your current thought patterns are likely what keep you trapped in the prison of social anxiety. To unlock yourself from this prison, you will likely need to have to rewire your brain with new thoughts that take time to cement in the brain, but if you try this as a start, it will lead you up the correct path. Leer más “Understanding The Discomfort of Social Anxiety”